Minessa walked in to the boudoir session...
with a huge smile and an open mind! I can't wait to share Minessa's words with you, but first I wanted to mention a slight oddity in this Client Spotlight post. Usually we do not attach your name to any pictures that you allow us to share of you, out of respect for your privacy. However, Minessa asked us specifically to use their name in this post, and of course we are honoring their wishes! To quote them: "I’d rather not be anonymous if that’s ok? I’ve spent too long as wallpaper. I don’t want to hide anymore."
I respect that greatly, and love to see you feeling confident and like you're no longer part of the wallpaper! So without further preamble, let's hear what Minessa had to say in their client spotlight!
What inspired you to book a boudoir session? What made you choose Lightfox Studios?
Over the last few years I have been working on my mental and emotional health with a vengeance. This year, I reached a stage where I finally had peeled back enough layers to realize some key truths about myself. The main one being that I had never seen myself as sexy, and I had no idea how to see myself that way. It interferes with how much you can surrender when you’re having sex or being intimate, how you see yourself. I wanted to book this session initially to see myself as a sexy and sexual creature. I knew to do that I needed to be the most me I had ever been, and I needed to find a photographer who specializes in queer identities. There were a couple I saw, but Jacob seemed to pull people’s identity out of their souls. I felt like they would be able to help me tap into parts of myself I had no idea how to access.
Did you have any concerns before your intimate portrait session? What were you nervous about walking in?
I actually had no concerns. Jacob’s onboarding was extremely thorough, and I understood what I was walking into. I also had recently done a BDSM quiz and got 98% on Exhibitionism. That realization was enormously freeing, so I was really curious myself to see if I was going to be nervous. I was OK with looking ridiculous (and there are some great behind the scenes photos that really capture that, they were great), but I wanted to FEEL sexy at the same time. I wasn’t sure how that would work, but I trusted that Jacob would guide me there.
What was your favorite part of the experience?
I have no idea how to pick just one thing. I loved the makeup portion – I never wear makeup so it was such a new experience for me. Jacob and I had talked before, and so they had already set the spaces up for what I was looking for. But I would have to say 2 things. First, the behind the scenes experience was SO FUN. I thought it would be weird having 2 people there being totally naked, but it really wasn’t. I learned that I am TRULY chill with being naked. It was very freeing. The second was that I have always had a psychic penis, I’ve felt it my whole life, and only in the last year or so have I been comfortable really exploring and digging into my maleness. I wanted to get pictures of me in my complete male/female form, not one nor the other, but both. I have never felt more sexy in my life, and there are some images from that segment that make me cry, because I feel at most myself that I have ever felt.
Who would you recommend an intimate portrait shoot with Lightfox Studios to?
I would recommend you to anyone who is raw, feels like it’s hard to find safe spaces, who isn’t sure they’re comfortable yet, and want a guide. I would say that anyone chronically ill, neurodivergent, people used to feeling weird or like they don’t fit in, or people who society would typically not consider sexy. This will be your proof that society has no idea wtf they’re talking about.
Now that you're an expert, what advice would you give yourself or future clients?
Be clear about what you want out of it, and share that with Jacob. They can’t help you if you don’t help them with information. And get the behind the scenes packages, its worth it.
Any final words you'd like to share with the world?
I love my body more now than I EVER have before. But it was SUCH a long journey of getting to know me. I feel like its hard to love something or someone you don't know very well, and so many of us spend SO much time avoiding ourselves, it's hard to love. I know I didn't look in a mirror for at least 10 years, and I never looked at pictures of me, I didn't love me at all. When I realized that I started dating myself. I thought of meditation time as dates. And I'd go and get to know me a bit better. Eventually we fell in love, and then..... I like to think that my photo shoot with you was my wedding day to myself lol! 😛 Mazletov!